Polyamory
There is both unique beauty and complexity to polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous relationships.
Each relationship has its own color or shape, creating its own distinct dynamics. It’s important to work with someone who truly understands the nature of these relationships and has lived experience navigating them.
Working with me
I get it. I am polyamorous and am currently in a monogamous relationship.
As a Social Worker, I focus on working with marginalized people. Even if you aren’t otherwise marginalized, being in a polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous relationship is a marginalization and deserves specialized support. Not all, but many of those who are in such relationships are neurodivergent and also LGBTQIA+, and I have extensive training and lived experience in both populations.
You deserve to see yourself for who you are. I love helping people see themselves through the lens of their community as opposed to the lens of their oppressors. It’s important to be validated in your identity and affirmed for who you really are.
Ways to work with me: Individual, Relationship, Psychedelic Assisted Therapy, Experiential (i.e. Retreats, Workshops, Nature-Based Sessions)
Common goals
Determining whether you want to explore polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous relationships
Exploring the identity surrounding your current relationship(s):
For individuals, is polyamory an identity you hold versus a relationship style you’re choosing to engage in?
For folks in a partnership, do you identify as polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous, and how might that be affecting your relationship?
Navigating relationship style differences:
Helping partners navigate a perceived mismatch when one is leaning toward ethical non-monogamy and wanting to explore that, and the other partner is monogamous and finds this scary or anxiety-inducing
Helping partners navigate a perceived mismatch when one leans more toward hierarchical polyamory and the other leans more toward relationship anarchy
Navigating boundaries and agreements you make together within your relationship(s)
Celebrating the beautiful aspects of relationship(s) that meets your needs
Deepening connection to your Self and your partner(s)
Healing from the trauma of living in a complex world that doesn’t always celebrate your relationship style
Resources
Before we begin working together, if you’d like to read more, this is where I recommend starting:
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships by Jessica Fern
The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix